A favorite quote of mine, “Put yourself first. You cant be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself”. -Unknown.
I recently realized how important it is to put yourself at the very top of your priority list. Some may call this selfish, but I call it smart. Your daily self-care is so important. I realized this the hard way.
As you know, I have two boys, a 17-year-old and the other just turned 2. It was almost as if I was a first-time mom all over again because I had waited so long. Two years ago when I brought home my baby, I did not think about anything other than my baby and my older son’s needs that I forgot to care for myself. I remember thinking I was doing the right thing at the time. But by me being so focused on them, I let myself fall apart. I hardly slept, I would drink cold coffee for breakfast and eat soggy cereal, showering when I could fit it in. I was feeling pretty gross, miserable and not good about myself at all. I wasn’t able to do much because I had a C-section, and that was so painful.
Looking back on that now makes me feel awful. I thought I was doing my best and trying to be a good mom to my children. But I was doing just the opposite and doing everyone around me wrong by not making myself a priority.
What is the first thing you do each day?
I have completely switched up my routine. I know it is not always easy when we have little ones at home, their needs are so important and must be tended to right away. But think about it, if you get up an extra 30 minutes earlier than usual, you give yourself some time to do whatever you need to do. Eat, shower, do your hair, makeup, get dressed for the day. Once you are all ready and feeling great you can then take on whatever comes your way. Once the kid’s wakeup you can then focus on their needs and not have to worry about yours.
This goes for night time as well. try to get the children to bed at a decent time so you have time for you. Or time for you and your significant other.
As a woman and a mother, feeling good is so important. Feeling pretty is important, feeling loved by our significant others is also important. Our families and coworkers expect us to be at the top of our game each day and for that to be possible, being a little selfish is a must. Whether it is a hot bath, a massage, getting your nails done, whatever it is you need to do. I say go for it!
So ladies, be selfish. Do whatever you need to do to feel good. Life is all about balance and making sure you are in a good place mentally, emotionally, and physically. Once that happens I truly believe everything else around you will fall into place.
Make sure to be open to your significant other doing the same thing! We also need them at the top of their game. So allow them some ME time as well.